How to Respond to a Wedding Invitation Politely

Getting invited to a wedding is always such an exciting moment — especially when it’s for someone close to you! But once the initial excitement fades, you might find yourself wondering: how exactly should I respond to a wedding invitation?

Whether you’re replying to a formal wedding invitation or a relaxed celebration, your response is an important part of good wedding etiquette. Here’s how to reply properly, along with examples of RSVP card wording and handwritten notes — plus a few tips to help you make a great impression.

Most modern wedding invitations include an RSVP card, usually tucked neatly into the envelope alongside the main invitation. These are designed to make replying simple and stress-free for guests and help the couple finalise their guest list, catering, and seating plan.

Typically, an RSVP card will look something like this:

__________________

Would love to attend 

Decline with regret

Simply write your name(s) above the dotted line and tick the option that applies. If you are unable to attend, it’s a kind gesture to include a brief personal note wishing the couple well — or even send a small token gift, such as a card or a bouquet of flowers.

If you can attend but your partner or children can’t, be sure to make this clear when you reply. It’s always better to specify who will be attending to avoid confusion on the day.

At Dotty About Paper, many of our wedding invitation sets include matching RSVP cards, guest information cards, and evening invites, making it easy for couples to collect responses and details beautifully and efficiently.

Sometimes, wedding invitations won’t include an RSVP card — particularly for smaller or more traditional ceremonies. In that case, a handwritten note is a lovely, personal way to respond. Alternatively, if the invitation provides an email address or phone number, it’s perfectly fine to reply that way too.

Here are some examples of polite ways to respond:

If you know the couple well, you might also wish to include a few personal lines — perhaps a memory, a heartfelt wish, or a promise to celebrate with them another time.

Always aim to reply as soon as possible, ideally within a week or two of receiving the invitation. Couples rely on your RSVP to confirm catering numbers, seating arrangements, and venue details, so a prompt response is both considerate and appreciated.

If the invitation includes a deadline for RSVPs, make sure you reply before that date. If you’re not yet sure whether you can attend, let the couple know and give them a definite answer as soon as possible.

Weddings take a huge amount of time, planning, and thought. Even if you can’t attend, it’s lovely to show your appreciation. A thoughtfully written wedding card, a small gift, or even a personal message expressing your happiness for the couple will always be treasured.

If you’re sending a gift, you can browse our wedding stationery collections at Dotty About Paper, where you’ll find thank you cards, wedding day cards, and gift tags that perfectly match any wedding theme.